Mom-mentum provides our Mothers’ Center Group members with access to Group Discussion Guides meant to encourage reflection and conversation. This post was inspired by our discussion guide: Holidays, Travel and Traditions. This guide gives participants the opportunity to explore their expectations for the holidays, discuss their stress levels, and share holiday season best practices. To download this guide and others, log in and visit Mom-mentum’s members only area of our website.
Five Positive Mindsets to Help Mothers Enjoy the Holiday Season
By Christine Farrugia
It’s that time of year again…
Shopping and baking,
Cleaning and list-making.
Wrapping and packing,
Mailing and… Panicking!
While our children are sleeping with visions of sugarplums dancing in their heads, eager to receive that new Shopkins pack or Hot Wheels toy, excited about the ceremonies, traditions, lights and sweet treats, we, as moms, have a tendency to become overwhelmed and stressed.
It’s time to take a child-like approach to the holiday season.
Children view everything about the holiday season with hearts filled with hope, excitement and joy. They view this time of year as warm and wonderful. We need to do the same.
Yet, how can we do that when our to-do list is longer than Santa’s, the calendar flips to the next day way too fast and exhaustion has invaded every cell of our body?
Here are five mindsets to adopt that can help us to relax and enjoy the season.
- Gluttony guilt? Instead of agonizing over the extra pounds we may gain by consuming delectable desserts and drinking too much egg nog, let’s savor the flavors and try to walk a few extra laps around the shopping mall to counteract the additional calories.
- Holiday card hang-ups? Start early….really early! Dress your kids in red in October or November and take a photo outside in the yard, or find a special snapshot from your past year of family memories and send your order in now…right now!
- Cookie swap chaos? Try using a no-bake cookie recipe or have your kids help you decorate store-bought sugar cookies or brownies with candy decors, frosting and sprinkles.
- Financial frustration? Consider having gift exchanges for just the children in your extended family and not for the adults. Or, set a price limit and have everyone pick a number that’s assigned to one family member; then just buy a gift for that person instead of everyone. Also, don’t forget your talents and skills and how they can apply to wonderful handmade gifts: scrapbooking, crocheting, sewing, baking, etc.
- Take a nap! Yes… you, too, not just your kids! You deserve to slumber with visions of wrapped gifts, completed lists and mailed cards in your head. While you’re at it, take a few bites of the fruit cake first and cuddle with those inspiring children who can teach us how to have fun during the holidays!
Leave a Comment: Do you look forward to the holidays or dread them? In what ways do you help cope with the building holiday to-do lists?
Christine Farrugia is a native Long Islander and (along with her husband) keeps very busy raising 4 children. She has a Bachelor of Arts in English and Journalism and a Master of Library Science. Beyond working as Mom-mentum’s Group Development Manager, Christine is also a librarian and facilitates Mothers’ Center Groups within library settings. Helping people—especially children—and her community is a priority which she addresses by serving as a Girl Scout leader, Cub Scout leader, religious education teacher and as President of the Parent Teacher Association at her children’s school.