CEO of the Family
By Alina Haitz
As a Human Resources professional, I see résumés every day. Cleverly, a veteran mother searching for work stated on her résumé that her title was “CEO of the Family” for over 20 years. Notwithstanding its liberal use of language, the description read:
Full-time mother of three: duties include organizing, planning, and managing busy household by utilizing a myriad of skills including—but not limited to—budget preparation and implementation, conflict resolution, procurement of goods and services, catering, and procurement of medical assistance and psychological counseling while fulfilling educational needs.
As I read this job description, it confirmed my thoughts about Motherhood. We are CEOs or perhaps the title CEM (Chief Executive Mom) sounds more appropriate. And as a new CEM, I find it exhausting and unpredictable yet heartwarming and beautiful. No matter how many times mothers would say to me prior to motherhood, “It will change your life” or “Motherhood is the hardest job of all,” it didn’t register with me until I started experiencing it myself. And Wow—those moms were right!
But as I fill the job description above, I must remember through my experience, this job is not one I do alone. And I have found that anything in life that is worthwhile or significant is never done alone. As I have transitioned with my 18 month old son over these months, I have utilized my team and support network. And YES I have asked for help. I am not Supermom. I need help, advice and suggestions. I need to know that I am not the only mom struggling some days getting my son to brush his teeth and wash his face nevertheless getting out the door on time for daycare then for me to work. I need to know that days will be really challenging and that other moms have had this experience as well. However, I also need to remember that there will be many days filled with love and moments I never want to forget.
As Chief Executive Moms, we must encourage and support each other. We must be honest and share our wisdom and stories. We must appreciate each other’s journey. But most of all, we must value ourselves and what we accomplish daily. Our work matters.
As Chief Executive Moms, we typically extend beyond the job description. As we grow as leaders in this field, there will be more challenges, risks and momentous occasions. We learn from these experiences and with gratitude, grace, and dignity we find this role to be the most gratifying and important work of our lives.
Thank you for this job opportunity.
Leave a Comment: How would your résumé read if you included your role as a mother on it? What parenting experiences would lend themselves well to your role in your paid profession?
Alina R. Haitz is a first time mom working at a local college and is business partner with her husband—having founded Ark Academic Services, for children with special education needs on Long Island, NY. She is learning to embrace motherhood head-on and enjoys the special gifts that she has received along the way. Alina is an author of a short book of spiritual reflections on Mother Nature titled, “I Am…” She loves spending time with her family and friends, enjoying a Broadway show, reading a personal development book or being creative in multiple ways from performing arts to writing.